"Surrender to what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be." - Sonia Ricotti
I am a very goal oriented person. I see something I want, and I stop at nothing until I get it. I never take no for an answer and if you tell me I can't do something, watch out.
When I was 14 years old I discovered that I have a passion for science. Not really the whole space & rocks thing, I'll leave all of that for someone else, but I absolutely love biology, chemistry, and anatomy & physiology. At 14 I didn't really know much past eukaryotic and prokaryotic cells, but I knew that I could, & would learn soon enough.
After discovering my love for biology, I associated myself with three people who, unbeknownst to me, would turn out to play a vital role in shaping the path I would take in my future.
The first was a science teacher at the middle school that I was attending at the time. His name is Mr. Gilbride. I had known him already because I had helped him with the animals that he cares for in his classroom in the past. I went to him first because I felt that my thirst for scientific knowledge was not capable of being quenched by the teacher that I was assigned in 8th grade. He allowed me to audit his classes during my lunch period. I did his class work in addition to what was assigned to me, I think he could see that I was hugnry for more, so he gave me even more work than he gave his students. I payed more attention in that class than I had ever paid in any class before it. I could not believe that everyone somehow kept biology a secret from me!
Anyway...
Next came a friend of the family, Rich. At that time, Rich (who is a nurse) had just began driving me to youth group on Wednesday nights at his church. during the car rides I would ask him questions about medicine, medical careers, and just science in general. There was one conversation in particular that I remember rather vividly... We were talking about different medical careers & what kind of schooling they require, and things of that sort; when he suggested that I become a surgeon. I told him I had given it a little bit of thought in the past but I wasn't sure if I knew what kind I would want to be, or if I would be able to handle all of the schooling that is required. He told me that I could do absolutely anything if I wanted it bad enough, and then suggested neurosurgery. I told him that there was no way I could ever be a neurosurgeon, and rattled off a few lame excuses as to why I am absolutely incapable.
By that time we had arrived at our destination and got out of the car. The conversation was over, but I could not get the thought of neurosurgery out of my head. I went home that night after youth group and researched that field of medicine, and every article on neuroscience that my 15 year old brain could digest before I fell asleep from sheer exhaustion because I was up until dawn soaking up as much as I could.
I had fallen in love. I needed more.
A few weeks went by before I had to go to my lifeguard training for the YMCA. The instructor turned out to be a good friend of my family that I hadn't seen in a while. (She worked at the Y when I was younger and taught my sisters and I how to swim. Throughout the process of doing that, she became good friends with my mom.)
Meet Dr. Ami Oristaglio M.D. Phd. (The third, and most influential) Through the past three years she has been my mentor, teacher, advocate, best friend, shoulder to cry on, and the big sister that I never had. She has been there for me through everything that I went through with my surgeries, has been on my butt about school almost as much as my parents, and has always been someone that I can go to for an honest opinion. All while being an incredible athlete, scholar, professor, neurosurgeon, and many other amazing things.
At the beginning of my lifeguard class, she gave everyone a course syllabus which included her contact information in case we needed to reach her for something. I can't remember exactly how it all went down, but at some point I sent her a text message jokingly telling her that I wanted to be her when I grew up. I worded it in a way that went across as a joke, but I had never been more serious about anything in my life. I had fallen deeply in love with neuroscience.
It wasn't long before I found myself standing in her lab watching over her shoulder as she extracted the brain of a perfused rat for her research. Never in my life had I ever seen something so interesting.
Since that day I have acquired many different textbooks from Drexel University on various scientific topics, most have to do with biology, neuroscience, and anatomy/physiology. (Most of which were gifted to me by Ami)
I have read through them all.
Never in my life have I been so eager to learn about something. In my freshman year of high school I took an Honor's Biology course & it was what got me out of bed for school in the morning. My brain had turned into a sponge & I was constantly in search of knowledge to soak up. Sadly, freshman year of high school was also when I was having surgery after surgery, and in a torturous amount of pain. At 15 years old I had decided that I would be a neurosurgeon.
At 16 I was emergency transported to the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia via ambulance. The skills and expertise of the surgeons at the children's hospital are what saved my life the summer before last. Though I am lucky that I was not in need of a neurosurgeon, the care that I received from plastics/ortho made me realize how special pediatric surgeons are.
No matter the specialty, pediatric physicians are god sent. It takes a certain kind of person to be able to do what they do every day. Every time I think about this topic I get all emotional & at a loss for words so I'll just leave it at this.
Those experiences with CHOP, coupled with my best friend Samm's story, (I'll leave the telling of that to her, I'm just making my point.) made me realize just how much I wanted to help kids in the future because
Samm recently fought and beat cancer!
I believe that we are all as strong as we need to be for the things that we are meant to handle in life. & I also believe that people come into our lives for a reason. Samm's Neuro-Oncologist, is to her, as Dr. Bernal is to me. While Samm was going through her chemo, I was going through everything with getting my rnd treated. Throughout this whole time Samm and I talked almost every day. Often times we'd talk about how nice it is to have someone who understands the whole hospital kid life, and to have someone who understands what you mean when you say that your doctor is like your best friend. Samm and I would talk about our doctors all the time. She'd tell me all about Dr. Deblanc, & I'd tell her about my visits with Dr. Bernal. I think it's something that you'd have to experience in order to really understand it fully, but when you're a hospital kid like Samm and I were, it's easy to befriend someone who is both kind to you, and completely understands what you're suffering through with your disease. (I'm not sure how or why, but for some reason, Samm's friendship with Dr. Deblanc, along with my experiences at CHOP made me take my future title from Neurosurgeon, to Pediatric Neurosurgeon.) a little over a year ago, Samm's Neuro-Onco., got offered a job in a different state. when he left Samm was heart broken. I did my best to give her advice and to comfort her. While trying to help her through losing her best friend, I remember thinking to myself about how lucky I was that Dr. Bernal wasn't leaving. She found comfort in the fact that he would be helping countless babies born with brain cancer. I couldn't hardly imagine the pain that Samm was feeling at the time that this was all happening.
Unfortunately, I feel it now. The pain of losing a best friend has hit me in it's entirety.
Just as Dr. Deblanc did, Dr. Bernal is leaving for another job. I couldn't believe it when I first found out... It wasn't like I could make the person who told me to cite their source... It was information that was only traveling through the grapevine. I was in shock. I think that I went through 4 out of 5 stages of grief in a period of like 20 minutes while talking to my best friend about the news. After thinking about him leaving for a while, I realized that it really doesn't matter because I don't need him anyway... I mean obviously I'll miss him, but at this point, there is nothing that he can do for me that I can't do for myself. If I remember and apply all that he's taught me, then there is literally no reason for me to depend on having him around. I don't know why it took me so long for me to realize this, he's been telling me this same exact thing since August!
While I was in the RND program, Dr. B. was the person that I turned to for support and advice. I was a complete wreck while in the RND program, both emotionally and physically. I can't remember exactly how often it was, but at least once a week he took pictures of my right wrist. (I'm not really sure why, I guess to watch the progress...? I don't know. Rheumatologists are weird.)
Anyway, He took pictures of my arm every week and when he did, we'd often have a little heart to heart, & I got to escape PT! It was the greatest gift I have ever gotten! & it came at a relatively small price, I had to shake his hand using my right hand (extremely painful) & deal with his lame jokes most of the time haha (Man am I gonna miss them now!)
Regardless of the price, I looked forward to seeing him.
A feeling of relief would wash over me when he walked into the room right before I was supposed to be getting on the treadmill.
To be honest, he's the only one in that entire building that I wholeheartedly trust. I do not trust doctors. Never have, never will.
I'm not sure why, but I guess there's just something about people that want to shove pills down my throat and/or cut me open that just freaks me out... Dr. Bernal is the first doctor that seemed to actually care about me. He is not only an amazing doctor clinically speaking, but he is also a great doctor in that, he seems to be really invested in his patients. I'm not really sure if that totally makes sense... but whatever... I can't think of a better way to put it.
I am going to miss him more than anything. I know exactly how Samm felt when Dr. Deblanc left, and it's not a good feeling. Just like she did though, I feel a little better about it all knowing that he'll be helping kids like me, but I still can't believe that he's leaving! I wonder if he would have even told me about it had I not gone back to see him because I came out of remission...? I guess I'll never know.
What I do know is this:
1. Having Dr. B. in my life for however long, is a tremendous blessing.
2. He was never meant to stay. ( I think he is meant to touch the lives and hearts of many, I don't think he was meant to stay in my life for very long.)
3. He has helped me more than anyone else ever could.
4. I am really happy for his future patients. I hope that they realize how amazing he is, and are able to appreciate him and the blessing that he is.
5. It would be a privilege to see him again someday. (Perhaps at some sort of medical conference once I get my M.D.)
6. I am happy for him.
7. Though I may be losing him being just over the bridge, I am not losing all that he has taught me. & in some weird way that probably won't make sense to anyone but me, he'll never stop teaching me.
For example, my experiences with Dr. Bernal have taught me that I do not want to just be a pediatric neurosurgeon;
8. I want to be someone's Bernal.
Song(s) of the day:
Heart of Love -John Mayer
Safe and Sound- Taylor Swift
Hopeless Wanderer- Mumford and Sons
When I was little, my mom would almost always sing me a song before bed. One of my favorites was a song that her mother sang to her, it's called "Que Sera, Sera" & the chorus went like this:
"Que sera, sera.
Whatever will be, will be.
The future's not ours, to see.
What will be, will be."
Meliora :)
Dedicated to William E. Bernal.
Stay golden.
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